Gottman Method

Relationships are complicated and, without the right tools, couples often resort to criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling and contempt. We may have an idea of how we got there; but we are often unable to find our way to a healthier and more loving place. The Gottman Method helps couples collaborate and find new ways to resolve conflict, increase intimacy and discover new hope within a relationship.

A key focus of the Gottman Method is attention to the details of how a couple interacts in both conflict and non-conflict situations. Relationships are built over time from many “micro moments” between two people, which can build habits that are counterproductive to our common goals of loving and being loved. The Gottman Method provides a structure to better understand our relationships, as well as tools to improve them.

Gottman Method Couples Therapy emerged from the research of Dr. John Gottman, who followed over 3,000 couples for roughly 30 years. Gottman’s research indicates that, to make a relationship last, couples must become better friends, learn to manage conflict, and create ways to support each other’s hopes for the future. With two Gottman Method-trained therapists (Marjorie Kreppel and David Christy), The Counseling Center of MarylandTM is here to help you on the road to a healthy, loving, long-term relationship. For more information, see


The Gottman Method begins with a rigorous assessment of dynamics within a couple and then prescribes specific tools to strengthen communication and connection, increase positive interactions and decrease negative ones.