DBT involves a skill called “stop” when you use mindfulness to notice when you are in an “emotion mind” - where emotions are dictating your behavior. During this state of mind, when we act on action urges, we tend to make situations worse. We want to have both emotion and reason in our behavior.
The best way to process is to think about what's happening between us, when you think about a support group there is a lot more focus on the content where people can provide feedback and how they experience it. Focus on the here and now in relationships as they develop.